Surviving Residency is the book I wish I had read 15 years ago when my husband was starting medical school! A friend recently sent it to me, and I am so glad someone took that time to write all of this down! It contains valuable advice on making a medical marriage/family work with the specific quirks that go along with medical training. It’s really a lifestyle unique in its strains on married life and parenthood. While some of the advice and information might seem common-sense on the surface to someone who has already gone through the medical training of a loved one, it is the first time an author with personal experience from the spouse perspective has put all of the advice and experience into one book.
If you are the loved one of a medical student, resident, or fellow this is a book you will be glad you took the time to read. I highly recommend both the book and the advice it contains to anyone interested in maintaining a strong, successful marriage during those difficult training years!
– Wife of 16 years to a medical doctor (married to him through college, medical school, residency, and fellowship – from pizza boy to doc!)
Cassy in Columbus
This book was a great help. My fiance is still in med school, but I’m glad I read it now and I’ll be hanging on to it for years to come! While it’s possible to survive this stuff without the book, the book is a big help and lets you know that no, you’re not crazy, and no, you’re not alone. A lot of people reading this book might have running households already. I don’t. I’m still a student. The financial info in this book is extremely helpful, as are all the moving resources. I’ve never moved a house before. I’ve hardly done anything more than cram stuff into my Focus hatchback and move from point A to point B. Some day in the not-to-distant future I’m actually going to have to figure out moving a household with big furniture, appliances, and maybe a kid or two underfoot. I’ll definitely be doing it with this book in one hand. Oh, and about those kids I’d like someday….I already know I’ll be a single parent at times and my husband will at times be grumpy and exhausted. Just knowing you’re not alone is helpful, and of course all the parenting tips I’m sure will come in handy. It says on the back of the book how many kids the author has, and it’s a lot. I’m willing to bet she knows a thing or two about high-stress parenting.
These tips might not be helpful for everyone, but I’m willing to bet most people aren’t June Cleaver types who can balance a checkbook while being shot from a cannon and live debt free after undergrad and med school debts. Of course, this is all while raising kids and/or having your own career. (remember your career?) If you’ve got that all under control and life is full of champagne, caviar, and cabana boys, awesome. Good for you. Do something fabulous and think of me. But most of us need a little help or at least a little reminder that we’re sane.
If you know this is a stressful journey or at the very least think your upcoming journey MIGHT be stressful, pick up this book. Really, it’s a drop in the bucket after $200K in loans. It’s an easy, enjoyable read. You’ll definitely have a laugh thanks to the author’s sense of humor and her experiences.
The title should be changed to the Medical Career Bible. This is a practical guide for surviving this roller coaster called Medical Training. This book should be a required text book for every new Medical Student, to be shared with his or her partner. Definitely required reading for survival!!
I really loved reading this book! Not only did it give a lot of great information and links, but I could also relate to Kris’ personal stories and have even lived through a few myself! It was good to know that someone else was in the same boat as me and survived! We are currently in our first year of residency and it was surely a wake up call for me, especially with a 16 month old. This book was introduced to me at exactly the right time in our life and I am so glad I could read it and now pass on the recommendation to all of my spouse friends!
I knew that I had taken on a lot when I moved with my boyfriend to a new city as he began his residency. However, I don’t think I truly grasped what I was getting myself into. “Surviving Residency” was a crash course in the reality of my new situation – and has continued to be a constant source of support in times when I need it most (also know as ‘call nights’). Thanks Mrs. Math, for letting me know I am not alone during the difficult medical training years!
This book is really great. It’s very well-organized and consice. It is full of helpful references and links, but really you don’t need to look at any links because the book covers everything so thoroughly! I am a wife of a resident, and I would suggest this book to everyone- especially those considering starting medical school as either as student or a spouse! The author’s stories are touching and to-the-point also– I found myself reading on to the next chapter just because I wanted to read the author’s introductory vignette to each new topic!
MrsZtMD from Indianapolis
I wish I had had this book earlier in residency! So much good information. And when your husband is on his 79th hour of work this week and you’re 9 months pregnant and your toddler just took her first steps, it can be pretty therapeutic too. Definitely a book that every med spouse should own.
I recently read this book and found it to be an enjoyable read as it took me through different life stages from a medical family perspective (and am glad to have found it early on in our medical journey). I especially enjoyed the author’s anecdotal stories throughout to exemplify the advice she gives. It seemed as though a lot of this advice would be applicable across the board – the young couple just starting out, the busy couple, the budget savvy couple, or even first time